Why You Should Forgive Instead of Seeking Revenge

In the previous post, I discussed forgiveness, its importance, and how God wants us to forgive those who have wronged us. It's a challenging task but it can be done. 

One of the hindrances to me forgiving was wanting revenge. That would make me feel better to know that the person who had hurt me was also hurting. 

We live in a world where wrongs are often met with retribution. The call to forgive instead of seeking revenge can seem counterintuitive. Yet, the Bible offers profound wisdom on why forgiveness is not just a virtue but a divine mandate. In this blog post, we will explore why forgiveness is superior to revenge, drawing from various Biblical scriptures that illuminate God’s perspective on this crucial aspect of our faith.

The Call to Forgiveness Over Revenge

Forgiveness might feel like a challenge when we’ve been hurt or wronged. However, the Bible consistently teaches that forgiveness is God’s way, offering us a path to healing and reconciliation rather than perpetuating cycles of pain. Here are some key scriptures that reveal why forgiveness triumphs over revenge.

1. Romans 12:19 (KJV)

“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
In this verse, Paul directs us to leave vengeance to God. Revenge is God’s prerogative, not ours. By refraining from taking revenge, we trust in God’s justice and allow Him to handle the wrongs we’ve suffered.

2. Matthew 5:38-39 (KJV)

“Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.”
Jesus redefines the Old Testament law of retaliation, advocating instead for non-resistance and forgiveness. This teaching encourages us to respond to wrongdoing with grace rather than vengeance.

3. Proverbs 20:22 (KJV)

“Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the Lord, and he shall save thee.”
Proverbs advises against seeking personal revenge. Instead, it encourages us to wait on the Lord, trusting that He will provide justice and deliverance.

4. 1 Peter 3:9 (KJV)

“Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”
Peter instructs us to bless those who wrong us instead of retaliating. By doing so, we align with our calling to inherit God’s blessings and reflect His grace.

The Biblical Example of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not merely a command but a reflection of God’s own nature and the teachings of Jesus. Examining the examples set by Christ and other Biblical figures helps us understand why forgiveness is a more righteous response than revenge.

5. Luke 23:34 (KJV)

“Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”
Even as He suffered on the cross, Jesus asked the Father to forgive those who crucified Him. His example shows that forgiveness can be a powerful testimony of divine love amidst injustice.

6. Genesis 50:19-20 (KJV)

“And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God? But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.”
Joseph forgave his brothers for selling him into slavery, understanding that God used the wrongs done to him for a greater purpose. This story illustrates that forgiveness can lead to redemption and a greater good.

7. Matthew 18:21-22 (KJV)

“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
Jesus teaches that forgiveness should be abundant and limitless, reflecting the endless forgiveness God extends to us.

The Spiritual Benefits of Forgiveness

Forgiveness brings profound spiritual benefits that far exceed the fleeting satisfaction of revenge. Let’s explore how forgiveness enriches our lives according to Biblical teachings.

8. Colossians 3:13 (KJV)

“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
Forgiveness is a direct response to the forgiveness we receive from Christ. By forgiving others, we grow in grace and embody the love of Christ in our relationships.

9. Psalm 34:18 (KJV)

“The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.”
Forgiveness and a contrite heart lead us closer to God. When we forgive, we align ourselves with God’s heart for reconciliation and healing.

10. James 2:13 (KJV)

“For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shewed no mercy; and mercy rejoiceth against judgment.”
This verse highlights that showing mercy, which includes forgiveness, is essential for receiving mercy from God.

Embracing Forgiveness in Our Daily Lives

Forgiveness is a journey that requires patience, grace, and reliance on God. Here’s how you can start integrating forgiveness into your life:

1. Reflect on God’s Forgiveness: Regularly remind yourself of the forgiveness God offers you. Understanding the depth of God’s grace helps you extend that same grace to others.
2. Pray for the Strength to Forgive: Ask God for the strength and courage to forgive those who have wronged you. Prayer is a powerful tool for overcoming feelings of anger and bitterness.
3. Seek Reconciliation: When possible, strive for reconciliation with those who have hurt you. Forgiveness is not just about letting go but also about mending relationships.

The Bible offers a clear and compelling case for why forgiveness is preferable to revenge. Through scriptures from the Old and New Testaments, we learn that forgiveness reflects God’s character, fulfills His commands, and brings about spiritual and relational healing. By choosing forgiveness over revenge, we align ourselves with God’s will and embrace a path of peace, grace, and love. When I forgave those who had wronged me, I felt a burden lifted from my shoulders and felt an inner peace that I had not felt in a while. 

I hope these scriptures inspire you to embrace forgiveness in your own life and to follow the example of Christ, who forgave even those who wronged Him. As we forgive, we walk in God’s grace and reflect His love to the world.

May God Almighty continue to bless you!

20 Biblical Scriptures on Forgiving Others

In my previous post on Forgiveness, I discussed how difficult it is to forgive someone and let the hurt go. In fact, give it to God. I wanted to share some biblical scriptures on forgiving others to help those on their journey to forgiveness. It is indeed a journey but is doable when you realize how crucial it is as believers.

Forgiveness is a cornerstone of the Christian faith. It is a profound act of grace and mercy that reflects God's love for us and His desire for reconciliation. Let's take a look at 20 powerful scriptures from the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible that illuminate the importance and transformative power of forgiving others.

Understanding the Call to Forgiveness

1. Matthew 6:14-15
   “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
   

   These verses from Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount underscore the reciprocal nature of forgiveness—our forgiveness from God hinges on our willingness to forgive others.

2. Ephesians 4:32
   “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
   

   Paul emphasizes that our forgiveness of others should mirror God’s forgiveness of us through Christ, rooted in kindness and compassion.

3. Colossians 3:13
   “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
   

   This verse instructs believers to forgive others as Christ forgave us, setting aside grievances and disputes.

4. Luke 17:3-4
   “Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.”
   

   Jesus teaches the necessity of forgiving others, even repeatedly, if they sincerely repent.

5. Mark 11:25
   “And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
   

   Forgiveness is crucial in maintaining a clear relationship with God, as Jesus explains in this passage.

The Power and Benefits of Forgiveness

6. Matthew 18:21-22
   “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
   

   Jesus challenges us to forgive others limitlessly, reflecting the boundless forgiveness we receive from God.

7. 1 John 1:9
   “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
   

   Confession and repentance lead to God’s forgiveness and cleansing, setting an example for how we should forgive others.

8. Psalm 103:12
   “As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.”
   

   God’s forgiveness removes our sins completely, illustrating the depth of forgiveness we are called to extend to others.

9. Isaiah 43:25
   “I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.”
   

   God forgives us for His own sake, not holding our sins against us—a model for how we should forgive others.

10. Proverbs 19:11
    “The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.”
    

    Choosing to overlook offenses and forgive demonstrates wisdom and brings honor.

Practicing Forgiveness in Daily Life

11. Luke 6:37
    “Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.”
    

    Jesus connects forgiveness with avoiding judgment and condemnation, emphasizing its importance in our relationships.

12. James 5:16
    “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”
    

    Confession, prayer, and forgiveness are intertwined processes that lead to healing and restoration.

13. Matthew 5:23-24
    “Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee, Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.”
    

    Jesus prioritizes reconciliation and forgiveness in our worship and relationships with others.

14. 2 Corinthians 2:7
    “So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow.”
    

    Paul urges forgiveness and comfort for those who have repented, preventing excessive sorrow.

15. Matthew 18:35
    “So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.”
    

    Genuine forgiveness from the heart is essential for receiving forgiveness from God.

The Example of Christ and His Followers

16. Acts 3:19
    “Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord.”
    

    Repentance and forgiveness lead to spiritual renewal and refreshment in God’s presence.

17. Hebrews 8:12
    “For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.”
    

    God’s forgiveness includes forgetting our sins, demonstrating His mercy and grace.

18. Romans 12:14
    “Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not.”
    

    Responding to persecution with blessings and forgiveness reflects Christ’s teachings and example.

19. Luke 23:34
    “Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”
    

    Even in His suffering, Jesus forgave those who crucified Him, exemplifying radical forgiveness.

20. Matthew 9:2
    “And, behold, they brought to him a man sick of the palsy, lying on a bed: and Jesus seeing their faith said unto the sick of the palsy; Son, be of good cheer; thy sins be forgiven thee.”
    

    Jesus demonstrated that forgiveness of sins is a profound act of mercy and healing.

These 20 scriptures illuminate the profound importance and transformative power of forgiveness in the Christian faith. As we reflect on these verses, may we be inspired to embody God’s love and grace through forgiveness in our relationships and daily lives. Let us strive to forgive as we have been forgiven, reflecting the heart of Christ and fostering reconciliation and healing in our communities.

May these scriptures guide and enrich your journey of faith and forgiveness.

Forgive, So God Can Forgive You

It weighed heavily on my heart. It made me cry. It hurt so badly that I got choked up just talking about it. I would cry myself to sleep so many nights just thinking about how this person hurt me. I don’t think if it were a stranger, I would feel this type of pain. What made it worse was that the person that I thought would support me and understand why I felt this hurt, did not believe me. They took the other person’s side. I guess knowing someone longer trumped the truth, every time. I held this pain in for years and I felt justified in doing so because this person hurt me for no reason. What they did was unforgivable.

After years of holding in all the injustices this person had done to me, I finally decided it was time to let it go. Letting go was only part of it, the other major and most important part was forgiving them. I talked myself into believing that I had forgiven them because I wanted God to forgive me of my sins. Matthew 6:14-15 says:

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

However, the true marker of my unforgiveness was the hurt and pain I still carried around. One day, I was listening to a preacher and although his sermon was not on forgiveness, he started to discuss forgiveness. He stated that one must remember Ephesians 6:12 which states,

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

Although someone may have hurt us, remember that our real adversary is the devil. The devil has a way of influencing people to do things to hurt us in turn to cause us to sin. We must keep this in mind. It does not absolve the person of their part but remember that our fight is not with a physical person but the forces of darkness that we cannot see.

It reminded me of the story of Job. The devil (with God’s permission) killed his children, stripped him of his livelihood, and afflicted him with illness. Job, of course, was depressed, and rightly so. His wife told him to curse God and die. This was his wife’s solution to the problem. This also showed that those closest to us can be influenced by the devil and not give the best advice or be the voice of reason. But Job refused. God is showing us that although Job lost everything, he did not sin against God.

“In all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly” - Job 1:22

This further shows us that although someone has wronged you, that does not give you the right to sin. It can feel justified but it does not make it right. Carrying that unforgiveness was a sin because it came in the way of my relationship with God. I was not allowing my savior, Jesus Christ to take the pain away to ease the heaviness in my heart.

Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. - 1 Peter 5:7

Also, I had to remember that I am human. I have hurt others, whether knowingly or unknowingly. When I go before my heavenly father in prayer, and confess my sins, I want Him to forgive me (Matthew 6:14-15).

After that sermon, I asked God to remove my unforgiveness and free my heart of all the hurt I was holding in. I also asked Him to forgive me because I know I have hurt others and I am not even worthy of His forgiveness but because of Jesus, He will forgive me.

I felt lighter. I realized that it was the devil’s plan all along to keep me in bondage with all that hurt in my heart. After praying, I knew God had set me free. I knew that talking about the situation would not bring me to tears anymore. I prayed for the person who had hurt me and asked God to heal them of the hurt that they may be harboring and to set them free.

43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy.

44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. - Matthew 5:43-45

Ultimately, our goal is to be children of our Father in heaven and how can we do that if we do not show that he lives in us. I learned that each day we are blessed with is another day to strive to become better in our God-like characteristics. God forgives, therefore, we must forgive.

I hope this message has blessed you as it has been a blessing for me.

I love you.

Let The Past Go, Look Toward Your Future

The past is the past, let's leave it there! As much as we would like to leave our past behind, the devil will always find a way to remind us of it. If it was up to him, we would be wallowing in our own self-pity, depressed and hopeless. But God. 

God has redeemed us of our sins and has cleansed us of our sins and past mistakes once we accepted Him as our Lord. None of us has made mistakes in the past. Although some may be more detrimental than others, mistakes are still mistakes.

       God does not look at our sins and use them against us. Only the devil does. In Psalms 103:12, it states, "As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us." Can we fathom the distance from the east to the west? Or try to fathom the multitude of sins God has removed from us to make us brand new, cleanse us, and become the people He has called us to be?
      

 Let's walk into our destiny. Don't look behind, look forward because your future is more promising than what the Lord has in store for the devil. Be encouraged.

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Forgive others so that God can forgive you. Mark 11:25

And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. Mark 11:25

NIV: And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.

Jesus taught us to pray and many know the prayer by heart. This was a format of how we should pray to our Heavenly Father. A crucial part of our prayer should entail asking God for forgiveness. We may not take into account the sins we commit in a day, the little "white" lies we tell, the stoplights we run, or even the people we hurt with our harsh words. There are so many things we may do that we may not remember and it's only when we reflect on our day or on our sins that we may realize where we went wrong. However, we may do little things that are so much a part of us that we may see no wrong in what we do, but the Father in Heaven does, therefore, to cover us in a sense, we ask for Him to forgive us of our sins.

The part of the prayer Jesus taught us that speaks about forgiveness comes with a condition."And forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us..." This condition clearly states and we clearly state, if we pray this prayer, that we want God to forgive our sins, just as