Why You Should Forgive Instead of Seeking Revenge

In the previous post, I discussed forgiveness, its importance, and how God wants us to forgive those who have wronged us. It's a challenging task but it can be done. 

One of the hindrances to me forgiving was wanting revenge. That would make me feel better to know that the person who had hurt me was also hurting. 

We live in a world where wrongs are often met with retribution. The call to forgive instead of seeking revenge can seem counterintuitive. Yet, the Bible offers profound wisdom on why forgiveness is not just a virtue but a divine mandate. In this blog post, we will explore why forgiveness is superior to revenge, drawing from various Biblical scriptures that illuminate God’s perspective on this crucial aspect of our faith.

The Call to Forgiveness Over Revenge

Forgiveness might feel like a challenge when we’ve been hurt or wronged. However, the Bible consistently teaches that forgiveness is God’s way, offering us a path to healing and reconciliation rather than perpetuating cycles of pain. Here are some key scriptures that reveal why forgiveness triumphs over revenge.

1. Romans 12:19 (KJV)

“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
In this verse, Paul directs us to leave vengeance to God. Revenge is God’s prerogative, not ours. By refraining from taking revenge, we trust in God’s justice and allow Him to handle the wrongs we’ve suffered.

2. Matthew 5:38-39 (KJV)

“Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.”
Jesus redefines the Old Testament law of retaliation, advocating instead for non-resistance and forgiveness. This teaching encourages us to respond to wrongdoing with grace rather than vengeance.

3. Proverbs 20:22 (KJV)

“Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the Lord, and he shall save thee.”
Proverbs advises against seeking personal revenge. Instead, it encourages us to wait on the Lord, trusting that He will provide justice and deliverance.

4. 1 Peter 3:9 (KJV)

“Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”
Peter instructs us to bless those who wrong us instead of retaliating. By doing so, we align with our calling to inherit God’s blessings and reflect His grace.

The Biblical Example of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not merely a command but a reflection of God’s own nature and the teachings of Jesus. Examining the examples set by Christ and other Biblical figures helps us understand why forgiveness is a more righteous response than revenge.

5. Luke 23:34 (KJV)

“Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”
Even as He suffered on the cross, Jesus asked the Father to forgive those who crucified Him. His example shows that forgiveness can be a powerful testimony of divine love amidst injustice.

6. Genesis 50:19-20 (KJV)

“And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God? But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.”
Joseph forgave his brothers for selling him into slavery, understanding that God used the wrongs done to him for a greater purpose. This story illustrates that forgiveness can lead to redemption and a greater good.

7. Matthew 18:21-22 (KJV)

“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
Jesus teaches that forgiveness should be abundant and limitless, reflecting the endless forgiveness God extends to us.

The Spiritual Benefits of Forgiveness

Forgiveness brings profound spiritual benefits that far exceed the fleeting satisfaction of revenge. Let’s explore how forgiveness enriches our lives according to Biblical teachings.

8. Colossians 3:13 (KJV)

“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
Forgiveness is a direct response to the forgiveness we receive from Christ. By forgiving others, we grow in grace and embody the love of Christ in our relationships.

9. Psalm 34:18 (KJV)

“The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.”
Forgiveness and a contrite heart lead us closer to God. When we forgive, we align ourselves with God’s heart for reconciliation and healing.

10. James 2:13 (KJV)

“For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shewed no mercy; and mercy rejoiceth against judgment.”
This verse highlights that showing mercy, which includes forgiveness, is essential for receiving mercy from God.

Embracing Forgiveness in Our Daily Lives

Forgiveness is a journey that requires patience, grace, and reliance on God. Here’s how you can start integrating forgiveness into your life:

  1. Reflect on God’s Forgiveness: Regularly remind yourself of the forgiveness God offers you. Understanding the depth of God’s grace helps you extend that same grace to others.
  2. Pray for the Strength to Forgive: Ask God for the strength and courage to forgive those who have wronged you. Prayer is a powerful tool for overcoming feelings of anger and bitterness.
  3. Seek Reconciliation: When possible, strive for reconciliation with those who have hurt you. Forgiveness is not just about letting go but also about mending relationships.

The Bible offers a clear and compelling case for why forgiveness is preferable to revenge. Through scriptures from the Old and New Testaments, we learn that forgiveness reflects God’s character, fulfills His commands, and brings about spiritual and relational healing. By choosing forgiveness over revenge, we align ourselves with God’s will and embrace a path of peace, grace, and love. When I forgave those who had wronged me, I felt a burden lifted from my shoulders and felt an inner peace that I had not felt in a while. 

I hope these scriptures inspire you to embrace forgiveness in your own life and to follow the example of Christ, who forgave even those who wronged Him. As we forgive, we walk in God’s grace and reflect His love to the world.

May God Almighty continue to bless you!

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