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When You Can't Communicate With Your Spouse

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Anyone who has been in a relationship, whether romantic or not, knows that communication is paramount for it to be successful. Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy marriage, but there are times when you may feel like you can’t talk to your spouse. Whether it’s due to conflict, emotional distance, or simply feeling misunderstood, the silence can feel heavy and isolating. During these moments, it is crucial to remember that you’re not alone and that there is a way to bridge that gap through faith and intentional effort.  Here are a few steps you can take to get the communication re-ignited. 1. Understanding the Root Causes of Silence The first step in addressing communication issues is understanding why you may not feel like you can talk to your spouse. This silence can stem from various factors, such as unresolved conflicts, fear of being hurt, or a lack of understanding. In James 1:19 , we are reminded: “ My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should b...
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What God Has Joined Together vs A Human-Driven Union

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  In today's world, it can be easy to approach marriage with a mindset of romance and personal desires. We see it in the movies, we read it in romance novels and we get swept away by the facade of love.  For Christians, marriage holds a deeper and divine significance. We often hear at weddings, " What God has joined together, let no one separate" (Matthew 19:6) , but what does that really mean? Can we discern between marriages that are divinely ordained and those that are driven by human desires?  Several years ago, I attended a beautiful wedding that seemed perfect on the outside. The couple had been together for a few years and everyone expected them to get married. The bride was glowing, the groom was charming and everything seemed like a fairytale. Yet, deep down, there were issues. Family and friends noticed that the marriage was more about lust and social expectations rather than true commitment. A few years after the wedding, the marriage began to unravel. The marr...
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What Should I Do If There Is No Intimacy In My Marriage?

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Hello everyone!  I am continuing the series on marriage and divorce. Today we are going to discuss, intimacy in marriage. I received this question on the post Marriage is Sacred and Binding and I wanted to answer it as best as I could based on scripture. I did not realize I would get so many comments on the post but I am excited to share them with you.  This is a question we all can learn from and one that is more prevalent than we would like to admit. I have a personal experience of discussing intimacy in marriage with a friend that can shed some light on the topic. A few years ago, my friend and I met for coffee to catch up. With our hectic schedules, we had not seen each other in months. We kept in contact over the phone but we usually met for coffee at least once a week. Anyway,  as we were talking and catching up, I asked about her husband and how things were with his business. Tears immediately welled up in her eyes and she whispered, "It feels like the love is gone...
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God's Intent for Marriage

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Marriage is one of the most profound relationships we can enter into, and it is important to understand its significance from a biblical perspective. In a world where the definition of marriage often fluctuates and the sanctity of the union is sometimes overlooked, it’s vital to return to the roots of what God intended for this sacred covenant. Here, we will briefly cover the major points of God's marriage intention. Why did He create it and what is the purpose of marriage? 1. Marriage as a Divine Institution From the beginning, God established marriage as a fundamental part of His creation. In Genesis 2:18 , we read, “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” This scripture illustrates that God created marriage to address the need for companionship. We were not designed to live in isolation; instead, we are meant to support and uplift one another. To be there to help one another through this life. This not only involves b...
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Why Is It So Hard To Get Married These Days?

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  One of the readers left this question under the post " Marriage is Sacred and Binding ." They asked, " Why is it so hard to get married these days?" This is a great question and one that has many layers. I will provide some insight from a biblical perspective. I do not claim to have all the answers and I welcome your comments on the topic. I believe that marriage is a sacred institution designed by God, yet many people today find it challenging to take that step. This can stem from numerous societal, emotional, and spiritual factors influencing our relationships. Let's be real, marriage does not get a good rap, especially when you look at the divorce rate. I'm sure we have seen toxic relationships that have left an imprint on us or have been in one that has left us scared. Just ask anyone who is married and they will tell you, it is not for the faint of heart. It requires a lot of work and it is HARD work.  Based on my research, here are some factors that...
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Do They Really Love You? What True Love Looks Like 1 Cor 13:4-8

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  Hello everyone!  I hope you are all doing well. Welcome to a new month! Over the next few weeks, I will be diving deeper into the topic of marriage and divorce. After reading the comments on my blog post, Marriage is Sacred and Binding , I realized there are important topics that we need to explore. While I hold the sanctity of marriage in the highest regard, I’ve received several questions about divorce that I feel compelled to address, using the Word of God as my guide. I do not have all the answers, but I’m learning more each day, and my goal is to approach this topic from a biblical perspective. I encourage you to join me on this journey, seeking God’s wisdom together on the topic of marriage and divorce. I want to start the series by discussing "Love." Love is a word that is used casually in today’s world. We hear it in songs, see it in movies, and even use it in conversations without always considering the depth of its meaning. "I love your pants," "I l...
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When People Remind You of Your Past Mistakes

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Have you ever been in a situation where someone brings up your past mistakes, not to encourage you, but to make you feel inferior or unworthy? It’s painful when others try to drag us back into a past we’ve worked so hard to leave behind. It can feel like a heavy weight on your soul whether it’s a reminder of past failures, sins, or struggles. But here’s the truth: if you are in Christ, you are a new creation, and your past no longer defines you. No matter how messy, broken, or sinful, it is not who you are anymore. When people remind you of your past to bring you down, it’s crucial to remember who God says you are, not what others say about you. 1. God Has Forgiven You We discussed this in the previous post on forgiving yourself but let us be encouraged by God's word. The most important truth to cling to when someone tries to use your past against you is that God has already forgiven you. Psalm 103:12 says, “ As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgres...
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